tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18540171.post115426211779694940..comments2024-01-18T12:02:23.977+00:00Comments on African Shirts: Shame, to feel or not to feelNkemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16179240558587295386noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18540171.post-1154423031851803812006-08-01T09:03:00.000+00:002006-08-01T09:03:00.000+00:00the not wanting to return home mentality exists be...the not wanting to return home mentality exists becasue people think it's better to be a loser in a country where u're anonymous then to back home and hustle as a loser while your more lucky mates are raking in the big bucks. i got friends here that are crazy about janding, and i can already see their future. they'll make it abroad but end up as security men and toilet cleaners. hustle, hustle.<BR/><BR/>about 419. i admit it's bad but like drug abuse it's never going to stop. the sooner we realise that the sooner high blood pressure and heart attacks decrese and the sooner we start looking for other stuff to yap about. just yesterday i popped into a cybercafe at about 3am (by the way this cafe is one of the best in abuja where diplomats and society big wigs often come). but yet yahoo boys were there doing their thing openly and enjoying the music playing while at it. hustle, hustle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18540171.post-1154395414457784742006-08-01T01:23:00.000+00:002006-08-01T01:23:00.000+00:00Imagine my situation when my uncle and aunt visite...Imagine my situation when my uncle and aunt visited me a few years ago.<BR/><BR/>They were in London from Nigeria and I had arranged for them to pick up tickets and travel by air to Amsterdam - Lots of praise.<BR/><BR/>OK! I pick them up at the airport and we take the train from Schiphol to Amsterdam Centre - on the way, I informed them I had to pick up my bicycle.<BR/><BR/>I cannot imagine what was going on in their minds - something like, this boy has been in Europe all this time, he has no car and he rides a bicycle?<BR/><BR/>We get to the Amsterdam, and they suddenly see that we could number more bicycles than people and many innovative ways of using bicycles to move children and goods.<BR/><BR/>When they were leaving, my uncle said he had agonised about how to tell people I have no car, that I ride a bicycle - he was close to clasping his hands over his head in unmitigated commiseration.<BR/><BR/>Having now seen the bicycle culture in Amsterdam, well, I am definitely a well-to-do man since I had 2 bicycles - well, I am also a circus act :-).<BR/><BR/>In the end, I suppose the shame in it all is the hedonism that feeds the need to keep up appearances - thankfully, it is one trait I never imbibed - earning me the derisory sobriquet - bounty/coconut - from people the same tan as I.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18540171.post-1154393209713393892006-08-01T00:46:00.000+00:002006-08-01T00:46:00.000+00:00it is a strange concept and one that holds a lot o...it is a strange concept and one that holds a lot of us back from my dad to strangely enough me. this need to prove ourselves to people who is some cases are doing better than we are. saw my cousin spraying some serious naira in a wedding video so his siblings aint getting ish from me no more >:(<BR/><BR/>listened to the bbc prog today on the death march to the west by thousands of Africans. not suprised about lebanon. I had to "rescue" my friend from Turkey. Almost died laughing when he called me. but it wasn't funny.chromehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17338912618994331113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18540171.post-1154375354887061162006-07-31T19:49:00.000+00:002006-07-31T19:49:00.000+00:00You're wrong on this one oh.It isn't shame that is...You're wrong on this one oh.<BR/>It isn't shame that is keeping those people in Lebanon, it is Vanity and Pride.<BR/><BR/>It isn't the shame of not having "accomplished" but that these so-called Big Men and Women cannot go home and oppress those who chose or had to stay behind.<BR/><BR/>If such people were really concerned abouve achievement, then they would have been putting some effort into achieving in Lebanon, getting a degree or whatever. <BR/><BR/>These people feel no shame in sweeping streets and scrubbing toilets as long as they can arrive at an Owambe in Nigeria and be spraying dollars on the teachers and nurses doing more noble work at home.<BR/><BR/>They deserve whatever they get.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18540171.post-1154335034874765962006-07-31T08:37:00.000+00:002006-07-31T08:37:00.000+00:00Its one of those things; pride can be both good an...Its one of those things; pride can be both good and bad. Good as it makes your strive to work hard and earn a good wage. Bad as it can lead people to make irrational decisions. I thought like you that the stories on the BBC website of Nigerians in Lebanon fell into the second category albeit I may have taken the same decision if I was them.culturalmiscellanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01051152488860486332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18540171.post-1154319466675739662006-07-31T04:17:00.000+00:002006-07-31T04:17:00.000+00:00While it is almost unimaginable why any immigrant ...While it is almost unimaginable why any immigrant will choose to remain in South Lebanon; it's also all too easy to query their decision to stay. There are other factors at play in addition to shame; a particular factor is that the African/Nigerian society is yet to devise a system-net system for the less fortunate ones. After being gone for decades- it isn't that easy to just pack a bag and leave for 'home'. Home is where the heart is- and that isn't their native country.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18540171.post-1154265228797872432006-07-30T13:13:00.000+00:002006-07-30T13:13:00.000+00:00You're so on the ball with this post. However, i ...You're so on the ball with this post. However, i don't think its only the fact that 'they' wouldn't be able to show anything of the time spent abroad, but that on getting back 'home' they wouldn't be able to successfully work and live in a meritocratic society without knowing some dude(s) somewhere. And like you say a lot of those not wanting to go back 'home' often are found in menial jobs abroad, how then would they be able to get to that dude somewhere who is the supposed messiah of their future back 'home'. I know i generalise somewhat, but that's generally the nature of our society (Nigeria), isn't it?ExtrovertedPrudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16108693507336790588noreply@blogger.com